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THE JUDGMENT CALL — ISSUE 12 — FINAL
The Quiet High Performer Crisis
Quick question before your next meeting.
Who on your team got quieter this year?
Don’t answer out loud. Just notice whose face showed up. That little jolt? Keep it. We’ll need it in about four paragraphs.
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Here’s the thing about losing your best people. It never looks like losing them. It looks like them becoming easier to manage. Which is why nobody panics until the calendar invite titled “Quick chat?” appears. No agenda. Tuesday at 4pm. You know the one. Nothing good has ever come from that meeting.
A CEO I worked with had a franchise player. The “thank God we have her” person. Month one, she stopped fighting for her ideas. Leadership called it maturity. Month four, she started saying “whatever you think is best,” which in high performer language means “I have mentally moved to a cabin and I’m naming the chickens.” Month eight, she resigned, and the CEO was stunned. She’d spent eight months resigning in slow motion and the whole company applauded it like a wellness journey.
The retention industry sells three fixes. More recognition. More money. An engagement survey, because nothing rekindles passion like a 40-question form from HR.
All three treat the wrong patient.
Your best people don’t leave because they felt unappreciated. They leave because your organization voted against them every single day. Every approval they waited on was a vote. Every decision that stalled two levels up was a vote. Every idea that died in committee, vote, vote, vote. Nobody counted the ballots, so the exit looked sudden.
It was never sudden. It was architecture. And architecture always sends an invoice.
Here’s yours. Replacing an employee costs one half to two times their salary. But McKinsey found top performers deliver up to 400% more than average, up to 800% in complex roles. So when your quiet star leaves, four people’s output walks out wearing one badge. If she made $200K, you didn’t lose $200K. You lost the better part of a million in output, then paid a recruiter to help you do it. You’d fire a vendor who billed like that. Your org chart does it every quarter and calls it turnover.
Gallup twists the knife: 51% of leavers say nobody discussed their future with them in their final 90 days.
That’s the Quiet High Performer Crisis. This month’s chapter of the Friction Tax, the tax your best talent pays for working inside a design that outgrew itself. Last week the tax hit your decisions. This week it’s collecting your people. Next week it comes for your speed, and I promise you will never look at your approval process the same way again.
This week’s move: The Ballot Count. Three questions for your top three people.
One. What’s the last decision you made without asking anyone? If they can’t remember, the architecture already confiscated their authority.
Two. What did you stop bringing up because it wasn’t worth the fight? That answer is the GPS pin on your friction.
Three. If you owned this company for one day, what would you change by noon? Then change one of those things within 72 hours. Not “circle back.” Pins and parking lots are where good ideas go to die.
Recognition is a compliment. Authority is a commitment. Plaques don’t retain people. Ballots do.
Here’s your CTA, and it’s simple. Reply QUIET right now and I’ll send you the full Ballot Count plus the three places organizations bleed top talent first. Fair warning: I send it personally, and I only do this the week the episode airs. After Sunday, this one goes in the vault with Episode One’s Judgment Gap tool, and the people who replied last week will tell you the vault stays shut. Your franchise player’s clock doesn’t pause while you think about it.
Because organizations don’t drift into excellence. They drift into friction.
Boss up,
Lisa Goldenthal Top 15 Executive Coach | Host, WholeCEO With Lisa G The most important leadership work you’ll ever do is on what’s around you.
P.S. Missed Wednesday’s live? Replay here [link], and the Money Minute alone is worth the click. It’s the part where I do math in public and someone in the comments audibly gasped. Next Thursday: The Permission Slip Economy, why your approval process is the most expensive department you never budgeted for.